This question gets asked several times. What exactly is love? Love has different hues, it can have different meaning. You can love your parents, your friends, your pets, children, etc., but romantic love, what exactly is it?
When a person feels heady in love, when the thought of a particular person sends his/her pulse racing, it can be termed as love. When a person occupies your waking thoughts, when you want to share your every day details with this person and when you want to be with this person always, then you are in love with him/her.
You do not see anything other than his/her face everywhere. You wait for this person’s calls, your last thoughts before sleeping and first thoughts on waking are about him/her. You are breathless in his/her company, you hang on every word this person says, you want to rush to do his/her bidding and you feel alive in all your senses when you are in his/her company.
This could be termed love. But actually, love has different meaning and definition for different people. For me love could be the rushing of blood to my brain, it could be just a warm, mellow feeling for someone else. Just being able to share can be termed as love and hoping and praying the loved one is safe, could be love for another. Some people are able to steadfastly love a person even after he/she is dead, and some also fall in and out of love very often.
So love is a feeling that is unique to a person, whatever he/she feels is love, will be right for that person. As long as this feeling lasts, it can be called love. Because, lets face it, many keep falling in and out of love. It is not right or wrong, it is just their quest.
Love is defined differently by different people. But it is definitely a feeling for one person. One cannot have this feeling for two persons at the same time. It is not possible. However long it lasts, this feeling will be for one person only.
Of course there are people who say they are in love with two people. I do not know how that is possible. Maybe they care for both, but surely love can be for one only. The extra ingredient that comprises love can be felt for one person only. How people justify loving two partners, is not understandable.
Many people are not sure if what they feel is love and after they reject a partner, they realize later that partner was the right person. Some are never satisfied, they are on a life long quest and they miss out on so much in life.
Heady love does not remain the same always. It matures into something more stable, becomes like a warm cloak and you gain comfort and support from it. Many foolishly feel they have lost out on love after a few years of being together. They do not realize love is there, it has changed its shape and form. Romantic love can be resurrected, you can re-romance your partner. Do all the things that you used to do together and rekindle the rush you used to feel. But it does not mean your love for each other has diminished.
How will I know when I am in love? No one can tell you or pinpoint it for you. You will know, because it is a personal feeling and your instincts will guide you. Expectations will be there, but love can send them flying out the window.
When you meet your special person, you will resonate together and everything will take on a rosy hue. You will find yourself smiling a lot, even silly things will gain profoundity. You will find a lot of your wavelengths will match, a glance or a touch will say a thousand words. You will constantly steal glances at your special someone, you will not tire talking about him/her. You will not accept any criticism of this person and people will find you tiresome, you are always mooning about him/her. You will actually not be interesting company for sometime!
So go ahead, find love according to your definition.