A gentleman was widowed with two children. He soon decided to remarry and to his credit, he married a widow with a child. Many years have rolled by, the kids have all grown up and married. They are settled in life and the parents are getting old.
This gentleman has come down with an incurable disease. A this time, his wife wanted to know about the division of property among the children. He admitted to having decided to leaving all he owns to is two children.
This lady wanted to know if he had made provisions for her child, he declared no. He justified his action by saying he undertook the education and marriage expenses of her child, so he need not leave any thing to this child. After all this is a child not borne by him.
The wife too does not get any share in his property. He has told her she can stay with her child, after all it is her child’s duty to care for her in her old age.
Do you think this decision is right? Is this man justified in treating his wife in this fashion? Why did he marry her? To care for his children, run his house and care for him? In return he took care of the expenses of her and her child. He gave her the security of a home, a marriage and her child was not without family. So is this marriage or barter exchange?
Of course, cynics will call every marriage a barter exchange.
Was that all her role? Is she entitled to only so much? Was he tolerating her because he needed her? Now he does not need her anymore, so he wants to wash his hands off? Whether the children too will agree with their father is another issue. What about his responsibilities towards his wife?
If she had been a housekeeper who took on the job of caring for him and his kids in return for her and her child’s boarding and lodging, then there is no question of leaving anything for her. Even then normally people do leave some amount or property as a token of gratitude. Here this is missing. She is not a housekeeper, she is his wife. He has certain responsibilities towards her. Surely he cannot discard her like this?
I wonder what is going on in this lady’s mind? Does she feel life has been fair to her? She was widowed with a child, was re-married and must have been happy. Wonder how her second marriage is? Has this husband been always calculating and demanding? Or did his declaration come as a shock to her? Was she expecting such a statement, so is she not shocked?
Whatever reasons a man re-marries, surely the rules that apply to first marriage applies here too? When a man marries, is he not duty bound to care and provide for his wife? Is it not Indian tradition for a man to bear the responsibility of wife? Did this gentleman look upon her as a wife or as a caregiver?
Is this how he took care of his first wife too? In such a calculating manner? Or did he feel he was tradition bound there, so he would have cared for her, here it is convenience, so he is not bound by any rules?
What type of a mother has she been so far? Will his children feel the father has wronged her and decide to provide for her? Will her child feel she is being discriminated against and decide to take her away?
What is going to be this lady’s future? Will she have to shift in with her child, or will the children give her the respect her husband did not? Only time will tell.