There are some men who are control freaks. They want to control everything, including their partners. What happens when you have a relationship with such a person?Why does he want to control? Maybe he has had a traumatic childhood. He may have imbibed this trait from his parent/s. If he suffers from low self-esteem, he may want to control in order to feel superior. Or he feels his partner is his property.
What ever the reasons, in such a relationship, a girl feels suffocated. When he decides what she wears, who she talks to, who she goes out with, then the relationship is no longer enjoyable. She will feel constricted. How can she handle such a person?
She must learn to taken responsibility for her actions. She must learn not to accept his demands. She must accept she is an individual who has all her rights. She must not support his actions. She must set boundaries which he must learn to respect. She must learn to be assertive and make sure he respects her and her wishes.
There will be emotional controlling done when he realizes she is not willing to accept his control. She must not give in to this. She must talk to him when there is no fight happening, and be assertive in setting boundaries. If he starts to take over the conversation, she must take time off and come back to the discussion later.
A girl who allows herself to be controlled will end up losing her identity. She must introspect and ask herself what she is losing in this kind of relationship. She will be losing her identity, her dreams, and her dignity. Is this relationship worth losing all of these?
Suffering in silence is not love.