An elderly gentleman fell down and hurt his head. He lives with his unmarried daughter. He is quite old, his daughter is a working woman. He tries to help with the household chores, though he need not. It makes him feel useful, so the young woman does not object too much.
After his fall, to get him to a hospital was an ordeal for the daughter. He required stitches. The doctor has asked for a scan to see if there is any blood clot. The gentleman feels being old there is no need to spend any more money on him. So he is refusing to go for a scan.
He has a wish to leave this world without being too sick and being a burden on his family. His daughter was asked to exploit this wish of his. It can be suggested to him that if there is a clot, it has to be removed. Otherwise it could lead to paralysis and he could be bed ridden. There is no saying which part of the body it will affect unless detected and treated. It could be pointed out to him that if he refused, it would lead to more expenses and also the possibility of him being unable to care for himself. His daughter will have to hire help, since she cannot care for him. She has to work. Hopefully this will argument will work.
Another elderly gentleman has high blood sugar and has suffered mild stroke. He needs to be with people, cannot go out alone. But he insists on going out, without any support. His wife is upset. She has finally decided there is only so much she can do. She makes sure his diet is fine, gives him his insulin injections, accompanies him for medical check ups and generally is around in the house. She used to have her own social circle, but has given up all that. She seems to have accepted her husband will not change.
Another elderly lady is highly diabetic, but refuses to diet or exercise. She feels she will die suddenly. She is convinced that is her fate, so why deny herself certain pleasures?
Another lady refused to believe her blood test report. The test said she has high triglycerides. She felt the laboratory was a fraud and did not either seek second opinion or meet her doctor with the report. She continues to live the way she is used to.
When children turn obstinate, they can be disciplined or reasoned with. Most of them do accept their inappropriate behavior and do change. But adults feel they know what is right and what is not. It is quite difficult to get them to accept they can be wrong. They have taken appropriate decisions, most of the time. But with age they need to adhere to certain restrictions. They need to take precautions and keep a close watch on their health. Their spirit is willing, but flesh is weak, they need to understand this.
Those who have mental disease or disorder, are not responsible for their actions. But geriatricians need to be more flexible as they grow older in their thinking and acting. Instead they turn more rigid. If a young person points out where an elderly person is going wrong, it is considered to be an insult. The concept that you can learn from anyone, even someone younger to you, is not accepted.
With age comes wisdom. But why does the personal area go dark? Experience does give vision, and the advice given by the elderly always is a guidance. But they fail to see that their bodies do not keep pace with their wisdom and so they need to be careful in what they do.