She told me she had recently shifted her residence. The new house rent was higher than the previous house. Her grandson was paying the rent, and she felt because of her he is forced to pay extra. She was wondering how she would be able to repay him. I asked her why she needed to repay? He is her grandson, he is capable of paying the extra amount. So let him.
She told me that was a different way of looking at the situation. But still she was fretting. I told her she took good care of him all these years; he is just repaying her for that. She told me it was her duty to care for him, so I said it is also his duty to care for her. She finally felt there was no more need for saying anything.
I explained to her how the wheel of life worked. What is up once will come down. That is natural. That is the law of life. She was young, she loved her grandson and cared for him to the best of her ability. She has spent on him and also done things for him physically. Now she is old, she is not earning much, so her grandson has taken over. Her husband is no more. He is loving and has true affection for her.
She needs to appreciate this. How can one ever repay our parents and grandparents for what they have done for us? We can try and care for them in return when they are old and frail. This is again law of nature. In the age of old age homes, where elders are sent, he is taking care of her. He has established her in a house near his. He looks her up every day, he keeps track of her medicines, and also pays her telephone bills. She in turn cooks his favorite dishes for him. She does give some sage advice too.
I told her now is the time to reap all that she did selflessly so many years ago. For so many years. Her grandson has turned out loving, and he is fond of her. He has taken on the responsibility of caring for her. His wife too does not mind, she too reminds him when he forgets something the elderly lady needs.
I asked the elderly lady to enjoy the time she has left. She can look out for her grandson’s family and enjoy his successes in life. She can take pride he has reached a certain stage in life. And his values are fine, he has not forgotten her. He shares everything with her and she is happy with this.
It is natural she frets about expenses. She is a very careful person, does not like to spend unnecessarily. She also hates having to depend on anyone. A very independent person, she feels she has become a burden on her grandson. I told her she was actually insulting him and disregarding his affection. She needs to learn to accept his love, and just bless him in return.