A father was disappointed his son did not get centum in mathematics. He whipped him with a belt, because in his school days, this father used to get centum. So how can his son not get centum? The boy was scoring in nineties.
The boy ran away from home, went to his teacher’s home and said he did not want to return to his parental home. The teacher reported the matter to the Principal and that lady called up the father. The father was aware the son had left home, but did not really care. He said the boy would eventually return home. The Principal was shocked, she pulled up the father.
She had a tough time getting the father to accept his son is performing well, and not to pressurize him. She narrated this story to us in a meeting. She says parents cannot afford to be so careless. Children need unconditional love.
She is in the educational field. She said the teachers are a harassed lot. The slightest pressure they exert, the students attempt suicide. The teachers feel they are between the devil and the deep sea. They need to produce good results for the school, at the same time not increase stress for the students.
There was a time a teacher’s job was revered and teachers occupied an important place in society. A teacher was looked upon as a guide and someone who imparts knowledge has to be considered respectful. There are so many cases of children going out of their way to perform service to their teachers. Many who grow up to become influential people in society, come back and provide comforts for their teachers.
People loved to become teachers. Now the passion to teach is slowly dwindling. Not many are committed to their jobs, if they find better paying jobs, they do not mind shifting careers. And the added pressure of being hauled up before the law due to a student’s attempt at suicide, is turning many away from this profession.
Who is to be blamed in this scenario? The school management for insisting the teachers bring in the best results? Only then parents will flock to admit their wards? Or blame the parents, they want to admit their children in schools that produce hundred percent results?
Do we blame the children because they have become a generation of people with low tolerance levels and who want instant gratification? Or blame society because it gives respect for people who earn well, which also looks down on people who perform dismally in academics?
It is a vicious circle; unless parents understand the concept of multiple intelligence and do not set store by academic performance alone, learning will not be easy. Parents who believe in overall or holistic learning, will make sure the kid’s intelligence is not measured in marks only. This could lead to teachers not pushing the students to study hard. The management will also realize only academic success is not the only yardstick for assessing a person.
When learning becomes unhurried, with the children learning at their pace, then children will want to perform well and achieve well. Also each child’s individual skills and aptitude needs to be assessed. Projection in that area will boost the confidence of the child.
Children should be happy at home and at school. Their childhood needs to be filled with joy. When they grow older, most children set their own standards. When they are guided to achieve their goals, they will blossom and bloom.
A sunny child is the need of today’s society. A small beginning is happening, hope this trend turns into a tide.