I read this somewhere. A father and a son were trekking out in the forest. They were in the wilderness and were enjoying being alone and roughing it out. They would do this often, explore different areas and this was a great bonding exercise for them.
In this particular forest, they came across a raging river. It was swollen and flowing quite fiercely. Maybe the snow had melted or there was torrential rains at the mouth of the river. To cross the river, there was a rickety old bridge. It did not look very secure, but that was the only way across.
The father asked the boy to hold his hand tight while crossing, so that he could lead the boy to safety. But the boy asked his father to hold his hand. The father wanted to know the difference. The young boy said, if in case the bridge breaks down, and he is holding his father’ s hand, there were chances the grip would loosen and he would be drowned. But when his father held his hand, he knew, no matter what happens, his father wouldn’t let go.
Hearing this, the father was overwhelmed. The boy’s logic made more sense. He trusted his father implicitly. He knew his father would never let danger come near him and would protect him always. It was an accepted fact for him.
Isn’t this story good to read? What happens to a parent who reads it? This child’s faith is very simple and very deep. It can make a parent feel very humble and also overwhelmed. You as a parent is responsible for the well being of your child. It is a life long responsibility and not something you can lend to someone or throw it away. You will need all your creativity, ingenuity and your love to fulfill the promise you have made by giving birth to the child.
When a couple decide to have a child, they will know it is a major decision in their lives. Whether you are able to provide material comforts, food, shelter and clothing or not, emotional and physical security has to be taken care of. You are duty bound to do it. Other comforts depends on your physical, financial strengths.
I had watched a wild life video. There a mother bear with cubs was eating a fresh catch on a river bank. A male bear came that way and wanted the food. It had been hungry for a few days and so wanted to eat. He would have killed the cubs too. But the mother bear fought him off and he left.
A few hours later, this very same male bear came back. This time the mother bear launched herself across the river and fought him tooth and nail. He was stronger than her, but her fear for the cubs gave her extra strength. She successfully chased him away this time too. Her kids were safe and they proceeded to finish the meal.
You get to see such scenes in the wild. The mother animal will do anything to protect her off spring from attack and makes sure there is food available for the kids. When animals can have such strong protective instincts, why not human beings?
It is not only the female of the species that protects the young. You have emperor penguins who nurture the eggs and help bring up the cubs. There are species of fish, where the male does the nurturing. I have seen an advertisement where the mother fish hovers over her young. When she senses danger, she opens her mouth and the young swim in, and she closes her mouth. When danger passes, they come out of her mouth.
It is no wonder that children run to parents when they are emotional or hurt. Their fears and anxieties are smoothed away by a parent’s kisses and cuddle. They feel safe with their parents.
Parenting can be fun with several moments of pride and satisfaction. It is also filled with anxiety, fears and worries. Parents are instinctively wired to protect their young. Parents try and provide as much comfort at possible. And a parent will go hungry, but will make sure the child is fed. There are several stories you hear about this.
One young man who grew up to be a successful entrepreneur, recalls his mother drinking water a lot. He grew up thinking his mother loved water. Only later he found out she was drinking water to satisfy her hunger. They were very poor when he was young, and so she preferred he eat whenever possible. She would just drink water. Once he came to know of this, his love and sense of respect for her has increased. He dedicates his success in life to her.
To become a parent is a blessing. It can be overwhelming, but it is a fulfilling part of one’s life.