I was reading about a divorce case in the newspapers. The couple involved were from the entertainment industry and so it made headlines. That is the man is from this industry. They have a young child and the divorce came about through mutual consent. Though there was reluctance in the beginning from the wife, she eventually gave in.
Apparently the gentleman fell in love with another woman. And ironically, his first marriage was also due to love. So where did the first love go? Who allowed it to drift away? Could they have sought relationship help?
The wife put her career aside to become a full fledge wife and mother. She is involved in the child’s life 24/7. She managed the home and entertained well. It could not have been easy for her to give up her career. But she did it willingly, I think, to look after the home, family, husband and child. They are a very well off people, she could have had any number of help she needed. She need not have been present personally everywhere and every time. But she choose to be. Did he appreciate her choice? Being a hands on mother, homemaker and entertainer is not an easy job. It requires lots of juggling and patience. And meticulous planning too.
A decade down the line, and he felt he no longer loved her and so wanted to leave. I do not know what are the circumstances of the divorce, only what I have read. And I have no business being judgmental. But what I wonder is whether love is the only ingredient for a successful marriage? Are there no other reasons why a couple stay on in the marriage? Anyway the meaning of love changes as the marriage ages. Are people not aware of it?
It seems to have become very easy to fall in and out of love. What exactly does love mean to these people? The lady mentioned above has picked up the threads of her life and has gone back to her profession. The kid is with her, I think. Maybe the child will crimp the father’s style of life, so he prefers the kid being with the mother.
Those who fall in and out of love, are they enamored with pasture is greener on the other side? Which love of their’s will be the final one? Or will they keep going from one love to the other? Will the duration between two loves keep decreasing? Is it that they have a fixed quota of love and so they run through it fast? They need their next fix, so they look for other prospects?
What about the second partner? Will she feel secure in such a person’s love? How long will it last? When will he discover his love here is no longer true, so he wants an out? Will she be prepared for the ditching?
There is a famous case of a second wife going to the first wife and requesting her to help her lodge a complaint against their husband because he was married for the third time. The first wife said since she had not objected to the second marriage, why should she object to the third? Maybe she wanted the second wife to realize the pain and humiliation she underwent when the second one came on the scene.
It is said that in the entertainment industry divorces are very common. They are supposedly fickle minded people where emotions are concerned and so they flit from one relationship to another. There are any number of steady relationships in the industry. But when some people fall in and out of love, they end up smearing the whole industry.
Some people believe that people working in the entertainment industry are not to be trusted. They are not willing to rent their houses to people working in this industry, nor do parents want to give their daughters in marriage to any male in this industry. How did this general feeling come about? How much has the people from the industry contributed to this?
When a marriage breaks, it can leave behind scars. People will move on, but the scars will remain. And when children are involved, then the trauma is greater. These children are in the limelight, whether they like it or not. Their parents are well known and so the public glare is on them all the time. It cannot be fun living in such limelight. They didn’t ask for it, but they have no choice.